Dating rules

Let us discuss a few dating rules. These rules are obviously not set in stone,
but they can generally be beneficial. The rules are particularly interesting for those new
to the dating world and will help you to survive the first date.

1 Let's take it easy, no complicated arrangements. That means no dinner by candlelight,
no flowers, no stopping and no excessive door somber conversations about the future.
Just be two people who have fun together. Nothing more, nothing less.
2 Keep a back door open. This is especially important if you meet someone you
have met online. Are you planning a first date always so that you can leave it at any time
if it is running very poorly. Meet for a drink or a coffee and prepare it so much so that
the other person know that you only have one hour to the next appointment. Such "events"
can still "magically" disappear when you get on well.
3 Keep your schedule flexible. One of the biggest mistakes in newcomers, the planning of
the conspiracy to take too well. A date is not a class outing. You do not need to know at
every moment what would happen the next moment. Relax, let yourself go and you do not plan
too much. You can get quiet before a few thoughts, but you can run the evening, as he runs.
4th Do not go to the movies. Movies are not really for first appointments. They are not really bad.
If you are extremely shy, it may even be beneficial to spend two hours with someone
without having to talk to. However, I would at the first meeting, if possible, refrain from
the cinema.
5th No dinner for the first time the same as with the cinema, but for another reason.
Ironically, many people believe, the first meeting should be a movie and dinner.
This is just awful! Food is too serious and too personal. To eat with someone whom you barely know,
is unpleasant. Stand out this for later on. At the first appointment, you'd better have a drink.
6th Not overdo it with your wardrobe! Appointments should not be as serious, but fun.
A person's clothing has a major influence on their personality. If someone is dressed very poorly,
 he usually has no self confidence. Extremely well-dressed people often seem arrogant.
Put on just adequate. That means casual, relaxed, but appealing.
7th Humor, humor, humor! The importance of humor when an appointment can not be overemphasized.
People like to spend time with other people who make them laugh. You can look completely average.
If you have a cheerful nature, you will be more popular than any supermodel.
8th No talks on the former or, okay?
9th No big words, please! Do not come to your appointment with an arsenal of cool sayings that
you have read in some silly magazine. That is always lame and transparent. Just relax and be
as you are. If you do not like the others for your own sake, then so be it and you do not have to
keep your time to disappear.
10th Use the name of the other. People like to hear their own name. So instead of saying,
"You are indeed quite a daredevil," say they prefer ". So Catherine, you're quite a daredevil,
" You may, however, do not overdo it. When I started even with the dating, I once told a girl,
she found me strange because I've always said your name. That was embarrassing!
11th Build on others. Pull it down or never. This can be complicated. You should not build
the other by sucking up to. For this you can not expect respect. Give her his opponent just felt
a great person. The best way to achieve this, you give to him or "I am so with you."
You are great, the other is too great, since he or she is with you.
12th No other girls or guys look behind!
13th Treat waiters and bartenders generous, even if you feel they were overpaid and easily
replaced (which is also true). The way you treat people in the service industry,
says a lot about you as a person. Give good tips, please be kind.
Do not expect too much from them and not treat them unfavorably.
14th They do not complain. Point. You complain about absolutely nothing.
People complain they're not particularly popular. The only allowable exception is
for someone else to complain: "What your friend did was not fair to you."
15th Do not expect anything. The fact that someone agreed with you, is not an invitation to sex.
The other person owes you nothing, and vice versa. Just enjoy the moment. That is enough.

Going out with several people

If you get seriously into the "dating market", you will be traveling with quite
a few people here and there may well be some overlap. Some may find this objectionable,
but I do not think that there are fundamental ethical objections to this practice.
In life some people it is very useful to maintain multiple superficial relationships, as deep.
There's nothing wrong with that.
However, the dating can be a problem with several people. I feel very strongly for
the people with whom I go out. Even if I'm not really into them, I still have high respect for
them as a person and will do anything that might hurt their feelings. And right there lies
the problem. Here are some things you should be aware when you go out with several people:
Do not talk about others
I never talk to the person with whom I have just composed, by another person with whom I go out.
From the perspective of my particular dates, they are the only person I meet. Do not get me wrong.
I would not incite to lie. If I were to ask one of the persons with whom I go out,
how many other people in the meet, I would say that I do not think this conversation particularly
effective. If they would insist on an answer, I would tell her the truth.
When dating, it's about two people that enjoy the company of others and show their affection for
each other. These special feelings you can not teach if they are constantly talking about another
person and then look through even make it this is not just an ordinary friendship.
Women are particularly bad in this respect. Please, dear ladies! We do not want to hear from
other men when we go out with you. If you go out with someone, then you give him or
her 100 percent of your affection and attention.
Take notes
It sounds a bit strange, but I'm happy to note the people with whom I go out.
I write on where they come from, what they do for a living, what things they like or funny
things that we talked about. After every appointment I make a few notes on this meeting,
and keep at it. Should I go out again with the same person, I watch a few minutes before I
losgehe at my notes. This method helps me to get into the mood, so my date is given full
attention. You must not write detailed essays. A few specific key points should be enough to get
the person to recall.
Set mute your phone
When I go out I put my phone on "vibrate only". The same thing I propose to you also,
even if you go out with currently only one person. If your phone constantly during
the appointment makes noise, it can completely destroy your mood or your date's
confidence (in you). I only watch it on my phone when the other person goes to the toilet or
for other reasons I'm alone for a moment.
Keep your bedroom clean
If an appointment ends in your bedroom, you should ensure that no traces indicate other
individuals with whom you go out. Before you go out, you should condom packaging,
long blonde hair and similar in principle to remove and clean up. I can assure you that no
one even intimate nascent meeting ended as abruptly as the discovery of an empty condom wrapper in the trash.

Internet dating

They have been replaced with someone a long time online and want to finally meet you in person.
As you prepare for this first meeting, what to look for, what you should do in any case,
you learn here.

Online dating not only offers many opportunities but also many risks. So a couple of really
serious dating tips for the first meeting with the potential future life partner.
Meet on neutral ground - in a bar, a restaurant in a park - definitely a lot of people busy and
visible place. On the Internet there are black sheep and chaotic. Tell a friend, a girlfriend,
where you meet. Catch up on any case on the first date in your own home. This is a big risk.
Limit the time for the start of the first date. That is, if you make the first meeting,
then do the same show that only 30 or 60 minutes to spare. If the other turns out to be a disaster,
or boring pain in the ass, you can say goodbye gracefully after a short time.
Announce before the first date, no phone numbers or other contact information (email address).
Enter your anonymity on only if you have taken some confidence to the other - maybe the second
meeting? When you enter your landline number, please remember that everyone can get out
of having your phone number on the Internet and your address. Use e-mail address as a free e-mail
address.
Turn off your cell phone number transfer. To avoid the callee experiencing your mobile
phone number. You want to give up your own number? Not recommended: the private,
fixed line because you can find it on various Internet services your address.
It is best to use a prepaid phone card.
Do not be picked up at home and can not after the date take her home. Do not take the car
the other a piece.
Are you interested in the other. Why? Who interesssiert for others is interesting.
And how do you do that? Quite simply by open-ended questions. These are questions to which you
can not answer with yes or no. Open questions start with How, 'Why?, In what way?, Where?
Through open-ended questions keep a conversation going and make it interesting and rich.
If you want to learn to entertain themselves at ease, then the counselor is only a first step,
heart to the right place for you.
Confidence is extremely important. With a good self-confidence to act on other attractive and
interesting. If you behave like a little gray mouse, then you should not be surprised if others
see you as the little gray mouse and turn away.
If you generally lacking in confidence and think little of themselves, then the counselor is
This win-win you more confidence highly recommended.
What should a first date talk not: Talk to the first meeting never know when you feel lonely and
unhappy. Also failed relationships, problems with the ex or the ex is flirting killer.
Such topics gymnastics from most people. The first date is not finally overcome the past and
the processing of disappointments.
Are absolutely taboo topics such as politics, money, and sexual issues - women love,
remember - fertility. When you see the man on the first date of you on the subject of
children speak to them, then that was probably the first and last meeting with this man
Give out at the first meeting not all of himself. This is a kind of precaution that your
protection is also a psychological strategy. So say not concrete, in which employer you work for,
the industry is completely sufficient (or do you know that your acquaintance will surprise you
after work in front of your office?) If you have one or the other in the dark,
then the mystery have that makes you interesting. Just as likely your counterpart at
the first meeting, all his socks are cheap, you should not do it.
Do not be fooled by appearances. Cars can be leased and expensive designer suits can
be bought on credit, the Rolex on the arm can be a deceptively real-looking replica, and, and ...
Take your time getting to know each other. Listen to him to encourage him to talk about
themselves and see whether the way, as he says and what he says, is consistent and you like it.
Talk as possible before the first meeting by telephone at the other. Why? Because the voice of
a man very much can be said about him or because you feel often been at the way the other speaks,
can decide whether you want to meet him. This only works if the other gives you his number or
give up your anonymity and tell the other your number. (See above)
Topics that are taboo on the first date: infertility (male turns her off rather than on),
or the explosion of personal problems, complaints about their own personal, financial,
family or professional situation.
What should be the Prince Charming or the dream girl?
The more accurate you should have an idea of ??your future partner should be like,
what properties, interests and values ??he has, the better the chances of finding
the right people to find partners. It is therefore important that you understand your
expectations clear. The single test will help you.

How What You Say on a Date Makes You More Attractive

Intelligence and a good sense of humor can go a long way
 

When you’re getting ready for a date, you want to look perfect. The inner monologue doesn't stop running through your appearance: Is this shirt wrinkled? Is there anything in my teeth? The list goes on and on. It turns out, your looks aren't necessarily what make you the most attractive to the woman sitting across from you.
Recently, the dating app Plenty of Fish released the findings of Conversation Nation, the largest survey on the topic. More than 2,000 single participants whose ages ranged from 18 to 70 (Up to 70? Did sexagenarians really need to be included here?), and nine out of 10 people believed that a successful date hinged on good conversation.
The top reason conversation makes someone better looking? It’s way easier to be attracted to someone when you aren’t sitting in awkward silence or arguing about politics. Plus it gives you a chance to showcase three attributes women look for when choosing an ideal mate: intelligence, a sexy voice, and a good sense of humor.
Understandably, you’re less likely to find someone attractive if a conversation was completely awful. If you and your date have nothing in common, if they come across rude, or if they don’t share your same values, it’s definitely a turnoff, according to 85 percent of participants.
When it comes to planning a date, you can’t go wrong with suggesting drinks at a local bar or restaurant. And if everything is going well, don’t ruin it by doing something like checking your phone constantly, talking about your ex, or even going outside to take smoke breaks. The survey shows that these actions—especially ignoring your date in favor of texting your buddies—are seen as disruptive and distracting.
If the date went well, call your date to let them know you enjoyed it. More than 80 percent of singles surveyed agree that a phone call constitutes a conversation, and it’s another opportunity to impress them with your communication skills.

Romance

Romance is at the heart of any dating experience. If you don't consider yourself romantic then you are wrong. I don't know of anyone on this planet who doesn't have the ability to fall in love. Therefore if you can fall in love, you can be romantic too. Romance is not in the grand gestures , it is in the small details. Women will often say that it is the small things that matter. The small gestures but it is down to both men and women to start being romantic. It is a two-way process and both parties get an immense amount of pleasure from showing they care about someone. Yes we would all love to have a romantic picnic on a deserted Caribbean beach with the person of our dreams but romance begins closer to home with tips such as these:
Understand what romance means and why it is important and learn what romantic aspects there are to your own character. No one has a heart made of stone, however tough their exterior.
Understand that romance is not the sole domain of women and that men who are romantic are far more successful when dating
Romance has nothing whatsoever to do with masculinity. In fact, being romantic can enhance your masculinity and reputation with girls.
Not all women are naturally romantic either but that doesn't have to be the case.
The key to being romantic is thoughtfulness. So start being a little less thoughtless and selfish.
Communicate with your partner on every level and anticipate their desires and needs.
Look at your partner when they are talking and hold their gaze
Learn that mood, location, situation and ambience can heighten romance with dramatic effect
Phone just to say hello, I love you and surprise your partner
Learn to say, I love you and mean it. Don't say it ever, if you don't mean it
Send them notes and small cards telling them you are thinking of them
Be spontaneous and do little deeds that show you are thinking about them
Start going for walks together, whatever the weather
Put your partner first, particularly as a surprise with a spontaneous trip away
Think creatively and plan a surprise weekend away
Buy flowers any time of the year, nice ones not just roses
Remember birthdays, anniversaries and landmark days such as the day you first met and plan something
Listen to the clues your partner gives you, such as things they like and books they read and buy little gifts
Keep being romantic. In a good relationship, romance never ends
Compromise. Putting yourself first is not romantic.
Write him/her a letter and let them know that you love them and you mean it. People send far few letters these days. Use good quality stationery too.
Watch romantic movies together and invest quality time doing the things you share and both enjoy
Make cards rather than buying them. It shows thought and inspiration.
Take your partner on a picnic to the park or beach and prepare in advance without involving them. Initiative illustrates romance nicely
Don't be a cold fish. Learn how to hug, cuddle and make physical contact. Touching without sex is far more romantic but don't always hug without kissing!
Kiss your date and learn to appreciate the finer qualities of kissing for its own sake
Dance together when the occasion arises and show them special attention
Hold hands and do anything make your partner feel close to you
Hold and hug your partner in bed, especially after sex
Talk chat and converse about anything and everything
Allow your partner to breathe and do separate things to heighten the sense of romance when you are together
If you don't cook dinner for your date, start learning my friend. A surprise dinner with candles is romantic
Buy small gifts spontaneously that show great thought in what they enjoy. But not too many otherwise it has the opposite effect
Remember that romance is often about giving of yourself, even if it is simply your precious time when you could have had other plans. Making your partner a priority is vital
Do things that make you both laugh. Laughter and romance go hand in hand
Remember that romance is in the small details and does not need to be expensive in any way. I'd rather receive a handmade card any day than an expensive gift
Anticipate your partner's wishes and desires to show them you are listening to them and that you care
Expect rightfully that romance is a two-way process though the romance you provide is simply giving of yourself.